Any men out there going through a divorce? If you need some wisdom on how to approach the impending festivities I’d be happy to lend a some counsel. This offer is to help be your Sun Tzu in the process to lend tactical and strategic (not financial support). That is what your parents are for…
Men be very cautious of a woman that uses the line “my mistakes are in my past”. It could be that she is a wise unicorn that truly has absorbed the life lessons from her past and has translated that into real meaningful change. BUT more often than not it means you are dealing with a new age Christian woman who does not want to be accountable for her actions and is using this line as a born again shield against true self improvement. If someone’s mistakes are truly in their past this type of line wouldn’t need to come up very often but instead I have heard this line quite a bit in many different circles. It has NEVER been used when someone was inappropriately judging someone’s past behavior but instead when a woman didn’t like being “judged” for whatever behavior she was being called out for at the time. Major red flags if you are considering any kind of relationship with a woman who ever uses this stupid phrase to justify bad behavior.
Spontaneity. It has become the substitute for being short sighted and irresponsible. Let caution to the wind. Buy one more useless thing you don’t need to put yourself in long term financial straits. Or worse yet do something idiotic and dangerous for a short term fix much like a heroin junkies next hit. No thanks I get my excitement from achievement and living by my terms not by making excuses for being short sighted and irresponsible.
It is spontaneous to take a dump in a public restroom without first looking if there is any toilet paper to wipe. How smart is that? How much different is most of what passes for spontaneity in this day and age?
I took my kids to the local public library today so they could get some books for an upcoming book report. Usually, I relax with a book and let them hunt down the books they are looking for while keeping an eye on where they are going. This time I decided to help them browse and was pretty depressed at all the garbage books just waiting to help indoctrinate our youth with the most popular liberal ideology of the day. Just a quick glance showed me crappy offerings on:
- Global warming included the Inconvenient Truth aka that hypocrite Big Al who helps pollute the world at will with his private jet flights.
- Numerous books on Islam the religion of peace
- A book indoctrinating youth to the evils of capitalism
- More Obama worship than even a middle of the road can stomach
After seeing that I was wondering what kind of parent would encourage their children to become a mindless leftist drone and found this funny little question on the Internet from a parent seeking to
indoctrinate educate their future sheep on left wing causes:
Do you know any good left wing propoganda for toddlers?
Please help me identify some lefty / liberal children’s books appropriate for a 3 year old (and up as I have noticed she tends to get older every day).
I have a 3 year old daughter, we read a lot of books together. Her mom and I are committed to progressive political action and would like to introduce some cool, fun, lefty books to the collection. We have a handful, but I’d like to expand. I am thinking about books that discuss race, class, struggle, civil rights, gender issues, environmentalism, etc. We are well to the left of the American mainstream, but we’ll take liberalish stuff too.
Can’t wait to see if their daughter grows up to be an empowered carousel rider when shes all grownz up!
The self improvement strategy of faking it til you make it is often preached as an effective way to improve. Faking it til you make it has been advocated as a way to improve health habits, financial discipline, career prospects, and by pick up artists as an effective way to become a modern day Porfirio Rubirosa. How effective is it? It is hard to say for certain since there are a lot of factors that are hard to isolate.
If you are already self confident and assertive I am skeptical that faking til you make it will bring about the desired changes in your life. Most forms of lasting self improvement require a more Napoleon Hillesque form of self improvement that involves developing and sticking to a plan, self control and aligning yourself with a powerful network that can aid you in your desired goal.
Faking it until you make it feels like a modern day lone wolf digital apprenticeship but that is a poor man’s substitute to finding a real life mentor that has achieved what you seek to do. Someone who is accomplished, has a strong network that you can benefit from and is willing to show you the ropes is the old school wisdom of the ancients known as an apprenticeship. Studying with a mentor has been the method of successful men from Cro Magnon hunters, Alexander the Great who studied under Aristotle all the way down to modern day oligarchs of finance and politics. If oligarchs are not your thing this is also how highly skilled blue collar tradesmen like electricians and welders hone their craft. When it comes to electricity would you fake it til you make it?
I have no doubt that faking it til you make it can help for making minor life changes especially when someone is starting from a relatively fragile foundation. True power moves require participating in what Napoleon Hill called The Mastermind network. There is nothing more powerful than a network of talented people unite for a common purpose.
Why are lawyer’s killing themselves? Only response I can think of is who really cares why look a gift horse in the mouth? Hopefully they are the ones on the wrong end of defending the dregs of society. Public defenders and divorce lawyers who are doing their part to destroy the world and profiting in the process. They better hope Catholics are right and that there is a purgatory.
I had a few friends over last night and we were reminiscing about adventures of the past. It’s funny how the stories we always retell are not the present day ones. After all we have high(er) status job now and make awesome money to support a comfortable living and have plenty left to invest for the future. We are at the peak of what worldly wisdom says is the time of our lives but we tell stories about the times when we had freedom and recklessly sought excitement around the world. Freedom and the ability to own your time make for a more exciting life than being a clock punching big wig. Even with a great career I am still part of the desk jockey club that Hawaiian libertarian speaks of. It’s not soul killing because I now like what I do after a recent career direction change. But it’s not Thailand in a rickshaw with a good buzz next to a smoking hot 18 year old on a highway with cars whizzing by at 70 miles per hour.
I understand it is healthy for a man to take a look in the mirror and see how he can improve for the future based on previous experience. But sometimes this goes to far into letting another responsible adult off the hook. Take the following quote as an example:
“For the record my ex-wife may be crazy but in retrospect it was me who lost my alpha edge in the marriage and pushed her into being a bitch towards me.”
Can you really make someone be a bitch? No, men need to stop letting women’s bad behavior off the hook and subscribing to some false concept of “manning up”. You may have contributed to the situation but ask yourself a few questions:
Didn’t both of you promise til death do you part?
Was she the one to break that vow?
Is losing your alpha edge mentioned anywhere in the vow ? In sickness and in health, til death do you part (unless he loses his alpha edge!)
Why accept blame that is probably at most 20% your fault? Put the blame where it belongs and don’t let her off the hook. You didn’t make her a bitch, genetics and a poor disposition did that.
In the 80′s they were dancing in the streets the 2013 version is munching in the streets. Lots of good lessons for today’s man in this story.
- You are potentially in jeopardy for being called a rapist if the situation does not unfold to the woman’s liking afterwards even when it was consensual at the time. In this case it was public humiliation due to pictures but often it could be hurt feelings if a relationship does not materialize later. Very risky business this guy was lucky the video existed or he would be going down (again).
- Everything you do in public or online is being recorded and can go viral. You lose control of what happens after that so making good decisions is important
- More and more people are starting to wake up and understand that many of these accusations are false and should be prosecuted as crimes for false accusations.
- Schmucks and would be white knights still abound if you scan the article’s comment thread some people just can’t help being dumb.
- If your going to risk public indecency to get some at least get some. Don’t be a #publicmuncher without getting anything but a false rape charge in return.
Just picked up the book Gun Guys while at the library over the weekend. Only about 1/3 of the way through it so far and not sure what I think of it yet. There was one part that I absolutely loved though. The author was interviewing a machine gun aficionado named Roger Sprava at one of the big shoot offs in the desert and the author said “Let me guess your not married”. No, if I was married, I’d probably have a fancy bath-room instead. This guy loves shooting his gun collection but even he realizes his freedom to pursue his passions would be limited and he’d be picking out tile at the Home Depot for his 4th bathroom remodeling project instead of doing what he loves. Be honest do you care how fancy your bathroom is?