Empty six pack in hand, but not for much longer, I am just about to drop it in the earth saving blue bin right outside my garage. I am far from an Al Gore inspired environmentalist and yet here I am taking the extra steps to help save the world. How did I get to this point?
I was never the type that would be careless with my trash but I just wasn’t all that interested in recycling. I knew it could be helpful to the environment but in the past it was inconvenient for two reasons #1. I had to make a special trip to do it and #2. It would clutter up and be unsightly until critical mass was obtained to make the special trip worthwhile. I resisted changing my behavior to adopt what I knew was a good thing until they made it easy and took away my objections by providing a big blue container and regular every other week recycling that required no special trip. Pretty sneaky but effective way to inflict change on someone that is not all that interested in changing behaviors. Here is the process in a nutshell
1. Communicate the benefit of the desired change. Let it seep early and often to help bring the objections to change out into the open and to start building consensus that the change is worthwhile.
2. Understand the objections to change
3. Modify and make continuous improvement to the approach and take away objections on why the change isn’t worth adopting. Make it simple for people to adopt the change you want by taking away the objections and making it easy to do something different. (Think about the evolution of recycling from having no recycling > Far away recycling centers > Closer recycling centers > Curbside recycling on a routine basis.
Make change so easy that even those that don’t care go along anyway…
Men and women are fundamentally different but each have the right to pursue what makes them happy in life. I believe this and think most other people probably do too although some wanna be radical non-thinkers may try to challenge the first part.
I could respect the above arrangement if both sexes were held accountable for their actions in a consistent manner but this is fundamentally not the case. It can not ALWAYS be a man’s fault when a woman makes a choice and it does not work out in her favor. It can not ALWAYS be ok for a women but not for a man when the script gets flipped. Here are some common examples of this nonsense that I hear many women embrace when it is in their advantage:
- Men should put himself in danger for any woman
- Men should still put himself in danger when the woman helped escalated a situation and make it dangerous
- Men should never approach women if he isn’t sure she is interested, its harassment!
- Men should always approach a woman don’t be a coward!
- Men shouldn’t ask for so much sex that is all he wants
- Men should always want sex after all she’s desirable. There must be something wrong with him (physical, mental, gay)
- Men should pay for dates
- Men shouldn’t expect anything for paying for a date.
- Men shouldn’t be nice guys that’s creepy!
- Men shouldn’t be jerks that’s not nice!
The list goes on and on. I understand everything is dependent on the situation and who is doing the gesture but the whole thing is just entirely nuts. This in a nutshell is why I consider myself red pill. It is not because I want to bang lots of chicks or don’t like my old self. It’s not because I am angry. It’s because I see the fundamental nonsense in the unmerited expectations that many women and a lot of society place on a man. I am not MGTOW but I do believe men should have rights and I am focused on self improvement and living life by my terms, other people’s expectations be damned.
Women in their upper 30s+ that should be thanking their lucky stars want freedom. This shows you how distorted the current sexual/marriage market is. Assets declining in value want freedom to explore. Is the answer to nip it in the bud or to instead slyly begin planning to optimize your own exit strategy? Start getting in better shape. Splurge and spend your money on a better wardrobe and things you want. Start building your emergency fund which only you can access. Stop sacrificing your life for the good of everyone else martyrdom only makes sense if you think 99 virgins are waiting for you. They aren’t, just one depreciating woman who should be grateful you stuck around but instead feels she can do better and wants freedom. If you love something (yourself) set it free and never settle a depreciating asset that thinks its market is booming.
How many walkers (zombies) have you killed?
How many people have you killed?
These are the three questions the group from The Walking Dead ask outsiders to determine if they are worthy to bring into the group. Since frivorcees like walkers from The Walking Dead have been infected with the great virus of the age it is important to ask them three questions to see if they have changed and are worth your time.
What was your n count prior to marriage?
What was the reason you got divorced?
How many post divorce miles have you already acquired?
After all you want a strong woman that is continually growing as a person and figuring out what she wants as time passes. Someone striving to improve herself over time that you can spoil and treat like the princess that she deserves.
Happy April Fool’s Day! The only thing you should do unless you are looking for a casual encounter is Oh your divorced, next…
Any men out there going through a divorce? If you need some wisdom on how to approach the impending festivities I’d be happy to lend a some counsel. This offer is to help be your Sun Tzu in the process to lend tactical and strategic (not financial support). That is what your parents are for…
Men be very cautious of a woman that uses the line “my mistakes are in my past”. It could be that she is a wise unicorn that truly has absorbed the life lessons from her past and has translated that into real meaningful change. BUT more often than not it means you are dealing with a new age Christian woman who does not want to be accountable for her actions and is using this line as a born again shield against true self improvement. If someone’s mistakes are truly in their past this type of line wouldn’t need to come up very often but instead I have heard this line quite a bit in many different circles. It has NEVER been used when someone was inappropriately judging someone’s past behavior but instead when a woman didn’t like being “judged” for whatever behavior she was being called out for at the time. Major red flags if you are considering any kind of relationship with a woman who ever uses this stupid phrase to justify bad behavior.
Spontaneity. It has become the substitute for being short sighted and irresponsible. Let caution to the wind. Buy one more useless thing you don’t need to put yourself in long term financial straits. Or worse yet do something idiotic and dangerous for a short term fix much like a heroin junkies next hit. No thanks I get my excitement from achievement and living by my terms not by making excuses for being short sighted and irresponsible.
It is spontaneous to take a dump in a public restroom without first looking if there is any toilet paper to wipe. How smart is that? How much different is most of what passes for spontaneity in this day and age?
I took my kids to the local public library today so they could get some books for an upcoming book report. Usually, I relax with a book and let them hunt down the books they are looking for while keeping an eye on where they are going. This time I decided to help them browse and was pretty depressed at all the garbage books just waiting to help indoctrinate our youth with the most popular liberal ideology of the day. Just a quick glance showed me crappy offerings on:
- Global warming included the Inconvenient Truth aka that hypocrite Big Al who helps pollute the world at will with his private jet flights.
- Numerous books on Islam the religion of peace
- A book indoctrinating youth to the evils of capitalism
- More Obama worship than even a middle of the road can stomach
After seeing that I was wondering what kind of parent would encourage their children to become a mindless leftist drone and found this funny little question on the Internet from a parent seeking to
indoctrinate educate their future sheep on left wing causes:
Do you know any good left wing propoganda for toddlers?
Please help me identify some lefty / liberal children’s books appropriate for a 3 year old (and up as I have noticed she tends to get older every day).
I have a 3 year old daughter, we read a lot of books together. Her mom and I are committed to progressive political action and would like to introduce some cool, fun, lefty books to the collection. We have a handful, but I’d like to expand. I am thinking about books that discuss race, class, struggle, civil rights, gender issues, environmentalism, etc. We are well to the left of the American mainstream, but we’ll take liberalish stuff too.
Can’t wait to see if their daughter grows up to be an empowered carousel rider when shes all grownz up!
The self improvement strategy of faking it til you make it is often preached as an effective way to improve. Faking it til you make it has been advocated as a way to improve health habits, financial discipline, career prospects, and by pick up artists as an effective way to become a modern day Porfirio Rubirosa. How effective is it? It is hard to say for certain since there are a lot of factors that are hard to isolate.
If you are already self confident and assertive I am skeptical that faking til you make it will bring about the desired changes in your life. Most forms of lasting self improvement require a more Napoleon Hillesque form of self improvement that involves developing and sticking to a plan, self control and aligning yourself with a powerful network that can aid you in your desired goal.
Faking it until you make it feels like a modern day lone wolf digital apprenticeship but that is a poor man’s substitute to finding a real life mentor that has achieved what you seek to do. Someone who is accomplished, has a strong network that you can benefit from and is willing to show you the ropes is the old school wisdom of the ancients known as an apprenticeship. Studying with a mentor has been the method of successful men from Cro Magnon hunters, Alexander the Great who studied under Aristotle all the way down to modern day oligarchs of finance and politics. If oligarchs are not your thing this is also how highly skilled blue collar tradesmen like electricians and welders hone their craft. When it comes to electricity would you fake it til you make it?
I have no doubt that faking it til you make it can help for making minor life changes especially when someone is starting from a relatively fragile foundation. True power moves require participating in what Napoleon Hill called The Mastermind network. There is nothing more powerful than a network of talented people unite for a common purpose.
I had a few friends over last night and we were reminiscing about adventures of the past. It’s funny how the stories we always retell are not the present day ones. After all we have high(er) status job now and make awesome money to support a comfortable living and have plenty left to invest for the future. We are at the peak of what worldly wisdom says is the time of our lives but we tell stories about the times when we had freedom and recklessly sought excitement around the world. Freedom and the ability to own your time make for a more exciting life than being a clock punching big wig. Even with a great career I am still part of the desk jockey club that Hawaiian libertarian speaks of. It’s not soul killing because I now like what I do after a recent career direction change. But it’s not Thailand in a rickshaw with a good buzz next to a smoking hot 18 year old on a highway with cars whizzing by at 70 miles per hour.